The Case for Keeping Cool, Part II

As I was saying, believe that selling your house is the right decision. Why? Honestly, because if you have come to the conclusion that you have to sell, you obviously don't have another choice. So, you may as well decide that it is the right thing to do. If you spend a lot of time wishing you didn't have to sell, wishing that things were different, wanting to stay in that house even though you can't, you've set up a war within yourself. A war between what is and what you want. So, no matter what you are doing externally to sell--hiring a Realtor, listing, putting a sign in the yard--internally your thought is "This sucks. I can't believe this is happening. Why us?"

If this is your internal monologue, how in the world can you even begin to focus on what you need to do? Folks, stop the madness. Cry, gnash your teeth, rail against the fates, but then pull it together, take some deep breaths, and just keep cool. Tell yourself that, no matter why you're here, you need to sell. You need to sell quickly so you can get on with your lives.

Do what you need to do to reconcile your internal thoughts with your external reality. The mind is a powerful thing. To paraphrase the NAACP, "The Power of the Mind is a Terrible Thing to Waste." Spending your time wanting something that is entirely at odds with your reality is a waste of time. And believing that you can't sell your house when you're going through the motions creates a kind of psychic deadlock. Look at our little pug friends up there. They're both pulling for all they're worth. If we could hear them, they'd be growling and doing that snore-breathing that pugs do. But for all the energy they're expending, neither is getting anywhere. Get it?

Now we get to the crux of the matter. In a nutshell, here's the case for keeping cool: if you don't keep your cool and surrender to what is, you will expend a lot of energy being anxious and conflicted and you really won't be able to sell. Settle down, reconcile yourself to your reality, and believe you can sell. I believe that you can. Still not convinced? More later...